Whether your relationship is a good one, a rocky one or one that is ending, it’s a ride full of ups and downs.
In the event of a breakup, your initial reaction will always be focused on getting your man back.
This is a common reaction if you love the person … However, the answer is not a clear one.
You cannot control the reactions and emotions of another person, but you can control your reactions and learn to handle your emotions.
Break ups are never easy, even if you’re the one doing the dumping.
Being the one that’s dumped is even harder, for often you feel like you did not see it coming and are blindsided.
Instead of immediately asking how do I get my man back, take the time to ride the extremes of emotions you are experiencing.
Take the time to hole up and cry and scream and get through the reactions that are part of the whole experience you’re going through.
It is okay to feel overwhelmed and heartbroken. During this time, it is key that you do not have any contact with the man you love but are not with.
By cutting contact, no messages, calls, emails and the like, you are allowing yourself room to feel upset and hurt and allowing him room to think about things as well.
Considering the relationship doesn’t happen if there is the drama of crying and pleading going on at the same time.
By cutting off contact completely, you give yourself room to heal a bit and figure out what you want to do next.
When you give him space, it also gives him time to consider things and to miss you.
After the initial emotions have settled, take stock of the relationship.
By taking stock of the relationship, you are taking the time to realistically think about things.
Is rekindling the relationship what you want or is that your pride or broken heart talking?
There’s nothing wrong with continuing to love this man, and evaluating the situation at the same time.
You might find that the breakup is a good thing and move on with your life. You might find that you truly love him, and you want to hold out hope for rebuilding things. This is okay, too.