Trouble in your marriage can appear out of nowhere. It tends to develop over time until suddenly you realize there is a problem, and the two of you are drifting apart.
It may have got to the point where your spouse has openly admitted that they are happier when you’re not around, or worse, that they want to leave you.
There is no denying that this is painful and scary.
It is OK to be confused, and it is completely normal not knowing how to react.
The good news is, there is a lot of things you can do to turn this situation around.
If you love this person, then you might as well take a chance, and do whatever you can to salvage your marriage.
Give Everything You’ve Got:
No, I don’t mean all of your money and possessions!
There is an adage, that the key to marriage is to meet in the middle.
Unfortunately in your situation, you may have to compromise a little more than your spouse.
This may mean sacrificing on some of your goals and desires for a while. You need to shift your focus to your spouse and work on what they desire out of the relationship.
This doesn’t have to be forever, but you need to put them first, in order to get your marriage back on stable ground.
You have to want to save your marriage enough, to do this. If you’re not prepared to compromise a bit more than normal, then maybe you two are better off separating.
Only you can make that decision, and only you can know what is best for you.
Find The Real Reason:
If your marriage is on the rocks, or worse, has ended. Then it is highly likely that there will be a lot of conflict.
You will most likely be copping a lot of negativity, and feel like you are being blamed for everything that you have ever done.
Don’t let this get to you. This is not the reason why your marriage is ending. All your husband or wife is doing is trying to justify the situation to themselves, and covering up the guilt they feel, by attacking you.
Allow yourself to have a thick skin, ignore the insults, and find out the real reason why they are unhappy.
Make Changes To Yourself:
When a marriage ends, you will feel like your whole world is collapsing around you.
You need to have some positivity in your life, and something to take your mind off things.
So start a new activity. Go and do something YOU have always wanted to do.
Even if it is getting back in shape. Just have something positive going on in your life.
Give Them Space:
If your marriage has ended, or the two of you are living apart. Be sure to give them space.
Don’t ring or txt them all of the time. Or worse, turn up and visit.
If you come across desperate and needy, you will only push them further away.
They also need time to themselves. Your husband or wife will need a chance to miss you, and to process their thoughts and feelings.
If you’re in their space all of the time, then none of this will happen, and they will only get more annoyed with you.
Making the decision to keep to yourself, and move forward with your life, is the best thing you can do. This will force them to evaluate their decision, and you will find your spouse trying to get your attention.
Most people who suddenly split from a relationship or marriage, do so as a result of overwhelming emotions in the heat of the moment. It does not take long for reality to sink in, and they realize that they may not have made the right choice.
Getting through a marriage crisis can take a lot of time and energy.
There are no overnight quick fixes. You just need to take each day at a time and work to deal with the issues.
If only you are prepared to do what’s required, then maybe your spouse doesn’t deserve you.
Think about that … keep your self-respect in this situation.