I know when I was trying to get back together with my Ex, the idea of the no contact rule terrified me!
Yet everywhere I turned, everybody was telling me that I absolutely must cease all contact with my ex for a minimum of 21-30 days.
When I look back on the situation now, I can see how VITAL this no contact rule is if you want any chance of getting your ex back.
If you keep reading, we will show you comments from other people who have SUCCESSFULLY had a period of no contact with their ex, and we will explain why this technique is so incredibly powerful.
No Contact Rule Success Stories From People Who Took Time Apart From Their Ex:
If you click the link above, the above stories are from people who have followed the advice of one of the most popular, effective and successful books about having no contact.
The book is designed around the idea of using the no contact rule properly. It’s not so much about getting back together with an ex. It’s learning that you don’t need them or anyone to feel happy, empowered, and to love yourself.
The above stories are just two of hundreds from people who have followed the book “The No Contact Rule” By Natalie Lue to get their ex boyfriends or girlfriends back using no contact. They are just one hundred or so success stories from hundreds of others. The point is, this book is built around the idea of stopping all contact with your ex for 30 days, and the readers success at regaining control of their lives is a direct result of following the advice in this book!
Why No Contact With Your Ex Is The Key To Success:
I know how you feel, I have felt the same way …. not talking to your ex is terrifying, you feel like you’re dying inside, you miss them terribly, and your mind is convincing you that they will forget you and move on.
So lets bring some logic to the table, and explain why this works, and what will likely happen if you follow the right advice.
Yes … the dreaded “No Contact” phase, or what I like to call the “Rekindling Period”. This is where the battle is won or lost my friend.” … Amanda Walters
Your Emotional State:
Right now, you’re being driven by fear and the intense force of emotions that this fear creates within you. That causes you to beg and plead with your ex, and say and do stupid things … like drunk dialing or worse stalking them!
This only causes you to push him or further away from you, eventually reaching a point where its too late, and all your chances of starting a fresh relationship with them is ruined.
By having space from your ex, it gives you the chance to follow specific techniques that will allow you to dissolve those intense emotions, and think and act with a clear minded focus.
Your Ex Needs Time To Process The Situation:
Even though it feels like its only you that’s suffering from the break up, the logical truth is that your ex won’t be feeling great either.
Just because things have ended (for now), doesn’t mean they still don’t have lingering feelings for you. Also it take time for the mind to adjust to the situation of being apart, for both you and your ex … is simply a natural fact of how the mind works.
So by having some time apart from your ex, it gives them a chance to process the situation. But it also gives them a chance to miss you.
There mind and thought patterns will still be adjusting to life with out you, if you keep out of their life for a short period, they will really start to miss you, and will struggle with the shock of suddenly not having you in their life at all.
I can guarantee that THEIR mind will keep reminding them of YOU, if you suddenly depart from their life for a while.
21 – 30 Days Is The Ideal Amount Of Time:
3 weeks to a month it the ideal time.
This is just enough time for you to make significant changes within yourself. During this time, you will be able to get rid of those intense and painful emotions, and you will have the chance to make very noticeable changes to your appearance, such as weight loss.
It also gives you a chance to rediscover yourself, and have the huge realization that you don’t need anything or anyone to be happy again.
Once you understand this, you will have all the power over your ex. When you truly see that your happiness doesn’t depend on your ex, then you have truly turned the situation around, and you now hold the power.
There are 2 “catches” to this though …
- You can’t realize your true happiness and power whilst your ex is still part of your daily life,
- After you have this realization, you may decide you don’t need your ex anymore, and want to meet someone even better!
Dealing With The Urge To Contact Them:
In the first few days your mind and emotions will go into overdrive, and you will have a very strong urge to give in and call or text your ex.
Resist that urge at all costs! After a few days, the urge will die away, and the rest of the time will fly by very quickly.
When you really feel the urge to contact your ex, just divert your focus to the work you have to do to get them back. Start working on the exercises Natalie has for you in the book.
You MUST remember the bigger picture, and don’t let your mind and emotions fool you.
As the intensity dies down, you will quickly develop new thought patterns, and your thinking will become aligned with doing what you need to do to get them back … and this is when the process becomes enjoyable!
What If You’ve Pushed Them Too Far Away Already:
It’s only natural and beg or plead with your ex when you break up. But as I am sure your aware by now, that only makes the situation worse, and puts the control and power of the situation back in the hands of your ex.
Don’t panic! You can fix the situation, and then go into the period of not contacting your ex, in fact, done correctly this can be very very powerful.
The most effective and powerful way to do this is by sending a simple email. This email tells your ex that you cherish the memories that you two have together, and the you’re sorry for the pressure you have been putting them under. Then you drop away into the no contact period.
If this is the situation you find yourself in, then make sure you consider using this email approach.
What You Should Be Doing During This Period:
In simple terms, you should be spending this time focusing and working on yourself. You should be reinventing yourself both within and with out.
But this is the time where you should be following a proven step by step program that will get your ex back.
To find out which is the best program to use whilst keeping your distance from your ex, keep reading.
The Best Step By Step Ex Back System To Guide You Through The No Contact Period:
When trying to deal with any significant challenge in your life, you always need to change yourself within first, and then outside tends to fit into place perfectly afterwards.
When trying to get back with your ex, this is purely an inner game. Your success depends on everything you deal with that’s going on within you.
The actual mechanics of talking to your ex, and asking them out again is actually the easy part, and if you do the inner work, you will have no fear of taking the right actions when communicating with your ex again.
So this is why I recommend that you read “The No Contact Rule” by Natalie Lue. This is a book about working on yourself. Understanding how to be unconditionally happy, and regaining your power and control in your life.
If you follow that advice, you will either naturally attract your ex back, or you won’t be interested in them anymore, and you will attract someone new.
So for a few dollars, make sure you check out this empowering book. You can get the paperback version, or have instantly on your kindle, PC or any other device in a matter of minutes.
Getting your ex back is just a window of opportunity to finding your true happiness. Why make your happiness dependent on another person?
Make sure you read this book, and you will either get your ex back, or you will end up with someone so much better!