We have all seen those really adorable elderly couples who have been married for 40 to 50 years.
People will often wonder what the secret is.
If you asked each one of them, you would come up with a different answer each time.
And that’s the thing … there is no ONE answer; you can’t be too specific with things like this.
But if you follow a set of general guiding principles, then you can be sure of a long, happy, healthy and blissful relationship.
Here we will give you five key areas to get you started:
1. Have Expectations Of Each Other:
The two of you need to trust each other, and the only way that this trust can be built is by developing expectations of each other.
You and your significant other, need to be clear with each other, what you expect out of this relationship.
If the two of you are left to make assumptions about the other persons desires and motives, then trust will eventually be broken … which will mean the relationship will start to break down.
2. Having Sex:
Guess what? You need to have sex in a healthy relationship!
The human body and mind are programmed to desire and have sex. It is a much-needed aspect of human life. Not just for reproduction.
This includes females as well!
Sex is vital for a close relationship. It provides a connection beyond friendship.
Without sex, and intimacy the relationship will always struggle as basic human desires are not being met.
I know, many of you will have heard that compromise is essential to a healthy relationship.
To be honest, it can seem a bit boring!
But you both need compromise. Now I don’t mean giving into every whim and desire of your partner.
I mean being aware of your partner’s needs, and what support they need in a relationship.
There are times when you will need to do things you don’t want to do, and go places you don’t want to go, or miss out on things you don’t want to miss.
All because it is something your partner needs you to do for them, in that moment and time. It is important to them as a person, and what they need out of life.
That doesn’t mean that this should happen all the time, or that you have to give up on the things you love. You just need to be mindful of your partners needs at the time.
They will love you for it!
4. Having Fun:
Hollywood makes marriage and relationships look like such a drag!
But it need not be that way.
A happy relationship is one where the two of you can have fun together.
It should be fun, why should a relationship be a boring routine …. we all have jobs for that!
Find some common interests, and make them a focal point of your relationship.
My girlfriend and I love to go mountain biking. We have actually made that a common focal point of our relationship, which allows us to have a lot of fun together, while escaping the challenges life throws at us.
5. Keep Dating:
What? …. no! not other people, keep dating each other.
Keep making an effort to woo each other, and to sweep each other off your feet.
I don’t mean have “date night” … I actually find that too routine and boring.
Once or twice a month, I will organize something with my girlfriend that is something completely new and exciting.
We will go and do something different. A new show, restaurant, activity or place we have never been. My partner will do the same for me.
Of course, it all comes down to what you can afford, but it doesn’t need to be expensive.
The point is, once or twice a month, take your partner out and do something to try and excite them, like you did when you first started dating!
There are no hard and fast rules that will allow you to have a happy and fulfilling relationship. However, these five tips should get you going in the right direction!