The moment when your spouse said to you … “I want a divorce” or “I don’t love you anymore”, probably felt like being hit by a semi truck full of emotions!
OK enough with the dramatics, but you most likely felt like your marriage was over, your world was crumbling around you, and that there was nothing that you could do to stop it.
Divorce is a huge decision in anybodies life. It becomes even more complicated when children are involved. It is a decision that should not be made lightly by both parties.
There are things that you can do to stop a divorce, if your spouse and your relationship is worth fighting for …
There is no point getting into a screaming match every time you and your husband or wife talk. This will only make the situation worse, and drive an even greater wedge between you and your partner.
If you want to communicate properly, to give your marriage the greatest chance at continuing, you’re going to have to control your emotions. Never act when your emotions are out of control, don’t let them take over. Pause, breath, and talk in a calm manner.
You will feel hurt and confused. But allowing those feelings to control you, when trying to solve your marital problems, will only make the situation worse.
Find Out Why!
You need to find out why your wife or husband is moving out and wants a divorce. For many it may seem obvious. But often it is not so clear cut.
There will be several underlying reasons why your partner wants a divorce. You need to sit down and talk it out with them. If you don’t know what the reasons are, how can you fix them.
You also need to be prepared to make the effort to make changes to yourself. If you truly want to save your marriage, then you need to make the effort to fix the things that have upset your spouse. If you’re not prepared to make those changes, then chances are your divorce can’t be stopped.
Stopping A Divorce When Papers Have Been Filed:
The situation becomes tough when divorce papers have been filed. However it doesn’t mean its all over.
Your only option is to persuade your ex husband or wife to stop the proceedings that have begun.
The best way to do this, is to convince your ex that you understand. You need to convince them that you can see why they feel they way they do, and that you’re prepared to make the changes required.
Blaming them for the issues, and getting angry with them over the proceedings, will only make the situation worse.
It will take time and effort to prevent a divorce. It will take a lot of convincing to prevent your husband and wife from leaving.
It will not be easy, and you will have to be prepared to get out of your comfort zone and make some changes.
This is where you need to have a long hard think. Is your relationship worth all of that effort? Is it worth saving? Or is it better off for both of you to go your separate ways?
Are you going to have to become someone your not in order to keep them? … If not, then go for it!