Have you been down this road before? … Does it feel like it’s all happening again, and yet another relationship is on the rocks?
Your relationship was fantastic, it was going incredibly well, but now, once again … its falling apart!
I know you keep asking yourself, why this keeps happening, and I know you’re scared of ending yet another relationship and start all over again.
Well you don’t actually have to do that, if you know what to do when you start to see signs of trouble in your relationship.
Violation Of Trust In Relationships:
I can almost guarantee that most of you reading this, will have had your trust violated in a relationship. This is the number one reasons for relationships getting into trouble.
Without that trust, the relationship is on a slippery slope to nowhere.
For most people, when the trust is lost in a relationship, they tend to just end things and move on. They don’t stop to try and work on what could be a fantastic relationship.
People find it easier these days to break up, or divorce than to put the effort into rebuilding the trust in their relationships.
In fact, rebuilding the trust in a relationship is not as hard as one might think. In fact, there is a simple formula that I will share with you, to show you how to do it.
Formula To Rebuild Trust In Your Relationship:
If you simply can’t forgive your partner for whatever has happened to destroy the trust in your relationship, then it it probably best that you move on.
Some relationships are so troubled they cannot be saved.
But in many cases, they can be.
If you can see your self being able to forgive your partner for what they have done to affect the trust in the relationship. Then it’s worth a shot.
But you must be prepared to forgive them.
You are most likely unwilling to forgive your partner, because you’re afraid to trust them again …
Forgiveness has to come first, or the pain of the loss of trust, will prevent you from ever trusting them again.
If you were the person who broke the trust in the relationship, then things become a little more difficult. But, not entirely lost…
You must forgive yourself first. If you can accept and forgive yourself, then you can attempt to rebuild trust with your partner.
Always remember, forgiveness is a choice that you make, it’s not something that is driven by feelings. It is a decision that you make to allow yourself to heal.
2. Reestablishing Your Expectations:
You can never make assumptions when it comes to trust.
When you want to rebuild trust in a relationship, you need to set the standards. There needs to be an expectations set for both parties of the relationship.
This provides a measurable benchmark. If the expectations are met or exceeded, then trust will naturally start to be restored. If they’re not met, then trust will not be restored.
If you don’t set a new standard for your relationship, then nothing can heal.
Both of you will have your own expectations about the relationship, and they will be different.
You’re both left with assumptions of how the relationship will continue. These assumptions will not be met, and both of you will fail to trust each other.
So the advice so far is … have the courage to forgive first, then set down and set new mutually agreed upon expectations about how the relationship is going to proceed.
3. Have Patience
So now that the relationship has a positive course laid out for moving forward. You now need to honor the decisions that have been made, and have some patience.
It will take some time for things to work. It will take time for the trust to return to your relationship. You will need to be patient.
It will also take a conscious from both of you. If either one of you is not prepared to make that effort, then the relationship is doomed to fail.
Unfortunately saving a troubled relationship is not easy …
But if you love someone enough, you’ll be prepared to do anything for them.