When break ups occur, you can be in for a wild emotional ride!
Whilst riding this roller coaster you very often develop a burning desire to learn how to win him back.
So with all this internal emotion how do you act?
- Do you start accusing him of seeing somebody else?
- Do you plead for him to take you back?
- Do you smother him with attention and affection?
- Do you stalk him both physically and on Facebook?
- How about sending loads and loads of text messages, or worse drunk texting him?
You see all of the above actions, are a result of somebody being driven to act by their overwhelming emotions to a break up.
This is a very bad problem, as all of this behavior is going to drive him even further away, and destroy any chances you may have of getting back together with him.
So what should you do to get him back?
This is going to seem very difficult to do at first, maybe even feel like the complete opposite thing that you should do ….
You need to stop all calls and texts, Facebook messages and emails with him.
So basically all communication for a while…. yes I am serious!
During this time you are going to give him a chance to miss you, but more importantly it is going to give you a chance to process those overwhelming emotions, so that you can move into the next phase on winning him back.
Overcoming those powerful emotions when trying to win him back:
Allow your emotions to be as they are.
Don’t resist them, allow them to flow and accept them as they are.
Cry if you need to cry, let it all out …
You need to accept the situation as it is before you can move forward.
Bottling up your emotions may suppress them for the time being, …
BUT, when it comes time to have contact with your ex again, they will come back and overwhelm you again, forcing you to drive him further away again.
Also during this time, go out and really live your life to the full.
Go and do the things you really enjoy but never really had time for. Maybe even try something new!
This will create a new aura about you, and will bring a vibrant new persona to the surface that your ex boyfriend will most definitely take notice of!
It is important to remember that before you met your ex, you were happy, and life was great. So there is no reason why you can’t be happy now.
How To Win Him Back After You Have Given Him Space:
So after you have managed to give your ex a bit of space, and followed the no contact rule. How do you go about getting him back?
Well there are 3 simple steps:
1. Re frame His Mind About The Two Of You:
When he thinks about the two of you, he will most likely think about the break up, and the negative aspects of the relationship.
This will be because it is essentially the last event to occur between the two of you.
So you need to remind him of the good times the two of you had, particularly in the early days of the relationship.
When he thinks of you, you want him to think of the positive memories of the relationship the two of you had.
You also want him to see that, during the time you have not been in contact with him, you have revitalized yourself. You have returned to the bubbly, fun and confident women he was first attracted to.
2. Start Hanging Out Just As Friends:
By this stage there will be a mutual interest between the two of you again. You will both enjoy each others company again.
Ask him out to hang out strictly as friends. But make sure they are fun things where you two can relax and just enjoy yourselves.
This can include spending time with your mutual friends.
Even better … if you have a new activity or hobby that you have taken up, bring him along and show off a bit!
This will allow him to remember how good things with you can be, and how much fun the two of you can have together.
3. Bring Out Your Inner Seductress!
For most people, if things have gotten this far, then the relationship will tend to develop again on its own.
But, if you are stuck just spending time as friends, then you need to learn how to flirt and seduce him a little bit.
This will entice him, and get him thinking about the romantic possibilities that can unfold between the two of you.
This will seem like a huge risk, and you will naturally be scared of being rejected. But you will never know if you don’t try.
How to win him back over text:
If you have read this far, then I suspect you are still interested in getting him back, but are a little nervous, and unsure about how to go about it.
Well you’re in luck, there is detailed advice available to you, which will walk you through each of the above steps we have discussed above, and exactly how to do each one.
There is also a support community available dedicated to helping people get back together with a lost love.
If you’re interested, and serious about getting back with your ex bf ….
Then I want to introduce you to our friend Michael Fiore. Michael is a relationship expert who has featured on Rachel Ray, and specializes in helping women get back together with their ex’s …. via text!
Michael has a free and very informative video, which will explain exactly how his system works, and exactly what you need to get started right now, on your journey to get your man back.
If you only just watch this one video, and nothing else, you will be well on the way to success and happiness again.