I bet you can relate to this …
You live a pretty fast paced life, particularly with the amount of “chatter” that goes on inside your mind.
You regularly desire a bit of a break and some alone time …
Yet during the very few moments that you get what you ask for, you begin to feel lonely, afraid and uncomfortable.
Why Do Most Of Us Fear Being Alone?
I want you to think about this quote from Geoffrey F. Fisher,
“In cities no one is quiet, but many are lonely, in the country, people are quiet, but few are lonely.”
In today’s world, we are always looking to distract ourselves. We always feel like we HAVE to be doing something.
But why do we, or should I say our minds think like this?
Well simply put, by keeping ourselves mentally busy, we escape our fear of loneliness.
But What Are We Actually Afraid Of?
Well, the answer to that question depends on how far down the rabbit hole you truly want to go.
But on the surface and for this article, the real reason is that we are afraid of emotion.
We fear the emotion that we THINK the experience of loneliness will give us.
When in truth, you can experience the mental state of loneliness without a feeling of discomfort; it is our resistance to perceived loneliness that creates the emotional discomfort.
Our Avoidance Techniques:
Many single men and women will spend a Friday night on a date with someone they have zero interest in, purely out of the conditioned fear that they will be lonely if they stay at home alone.
People, particularly young people, will hang around with groups of “friends” who they have nothing in common with, just to feel accepted and not to feel alone.
Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid Of Being Alone:
First of all loneliness is a just a word attached to an experience of being by yourself. The suffering comes from mental conditioning that it is wrong to enjoy time alone.
The biggest reason to embrace any chance you have to be alone is this …
When you get past the beliefs and mental noise your mind has about being alone, life will truly come alive.
The times when you are truly alone with yourself, and enjoying whatever it is you are doing, is when life’s true inspiration, joy, and creativity will reveal itself to you.
It is when you are alone, away from the conditioning and distractions of life, that true joy and inspiration will come to you. With this new found energy, you can venture back out into the world, and express your new found joy, inspiration, and creativity.
Embrace your alone time, don’t avoid it!